Monday, January 2, 2023

December 2022 thoughts

12/20 - Haha DH complimented me on how snazzy I dress LO. He said kiddo is way cooler than either of us. I reminded him that I buy everything secondhand. So I just filter all the clothes for sale on consignment by kiddo's size and buy what is available. So thank you moms of Los Angeles for reselling the coolest little clothes. Yep I wish half of that stuff was in my size.

12/21 - I normally look forward to school breaks and have a list of shows to binge watch. This year I got nothing. Not that I don't want to watch TV but I just don't have a list of shows. We have Paramount+ and Disney+ and Amazon Prime and Netflix. How can there be so much content and I'm just not into any of it? 

Kiddo is watching Baby Bus on YouTube and this other channel called First Toons (KidsFirstTV). He gets really upset if we try to put on something like Netflix or Paramount+. Of course there's no TV at daycare. And he will play at home without the TV. We use it when we need to do something like shower or cook dinner.

I wish I could rip the songs from this YouTube stuff he likes and then put it in a playlist and then just play the audio of it. My dad used to do that. Take our favorite movies and shows and make an audio recording of it and then play that in the car on long road trips. We're leaving Friday and doing a 6 hour drive and I'm just not sure it will go smoothly.

>> listentoyoutube is a site that allows you to rip audio

I really liked Wheel of Time season 1, there have to be significant strong female leaders. Game of Thrones was good but a bit violent. Lord of the Rings: Rings of Power was good. What I liked were the sweeping landscape views, a full orchestral soundtrack and an immersive fantasy world. I had to really think about shows I looked forward to watching when DH and LO were not around.

Seems like DH is happy to return to work tomorrow. I, on the other hand, have a couple more weeks of winter break. So I scheduled a lot of "mommy & me" type stuff and two Disneyland days. LO is home with me until school resumes on Jan 23.

Kiddo is showing a strong preference for mommy at diaper change and nap time. I am finally feeling like the house is back in shape after we involuntarily got our fences redone. So much carnage to my garden! We traveled Dec 12-18 and Dec 23-27 so we left the fridge totally empty for most of December. Our fridge is now fully restocked and Christmas is put away and we're caught up on laundry.

Unfortunately we stayed at a cheap hotel for Thanksgiving and brought back fleas. It's been such a stress constantly washing sheets, blankets and couch covers and vacuuming and spraying. I regret being a cheapskate!!! It would have cost us $200 to switch hotels but it will cost $2200 to have pest control come over here and spray. So we're trying to treat it ourselves. And by "we" I mean ME because DH isn't really doing anything to help.

It's like when he's on vacation DH just stops doing chores. When I'm on break from school, he relies on me to do all the shopping, cooking, cleaning and childcare. While he naps all day and complains about how tired he is and eats junk food even though he is diabetic. And then he complains when I "drag" him along to playdates and outdoor workouts.

I'm also over DH's lazy parenting style. He lets LO watch cartoons all day. Then he wonders why LO has turned into a whiny monster. I prefer to schedule playdates, go to a park, museum, shopping... anything to keep us busy. I let LO watch 1 hour of TV while he is waking up (6-7am) and 1 hour while I cook dinner (4-5pm). But DH just doesn't take a hands-on approach with LO.

I'm on the floor playing cars or outside chasing LO around. I definitely think the whining is 10x worse if LO isn't worn out. I plan busy boxes with sensory stuff or cooking together or go for a walk, there are literally endless things to do together. It does take time to plan and set up and then it takes initiative to get kiddo going on a new task. It seems like DH just doesn't do that, doesn't want to, doesn't think about it, or doesn't know how.

TLDR I love my husband and I love how he supports me in a lot of ways but I feel like we have very different ideas about how to parent.